Some of the readers of this blog may have already heard, but our adoption has fallen through. We went to Sacramento and were present for the birth of the baby, a beautiful girl. Things seemed to be going very well, and E seemed very set on the plan. But E's family members had a change of heart and decided that the family should parent the baby. Things changed very quickly. E was conflicted but went with the wishes of her family.
We spent a day and a half with the baby and the whole thing is very sad for us. It's one of those really bad adoption outcomes that happen to some people, but we hoped we wouldn't be one of them. Like I mentioned in another post, this happens about 10% of the time to people who are clients of our adoption agency. So we hope we'll be in the lucky 90% the next time we get to this point.
The silver lining to this cloud is that we have so many supportive people in our lives. I know that will help us get through to the adoption that does work.
We will wait until we are feeling a bit better, and then go back into the pool of waiting families. We have both agreed that we learned a lot from the experience, from preparing for parenthood to taking care of the baby. We will be much more ready when it really does happen. But does that mean it doesn't suck? I think you know the answer to that.
Today, we're going to drown our sorrows in a movie or a walk in the park, and I guess tomorrow we'll get back into life.